Ellen Mendoza

“ Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. ” — Thich Nhat Hanh

The only way to grow and become better is to accept that there are people who know more than you, and that you can learn from them. You gotta accept that there’s always gonna people smarter and better and greater than you. It’s just the facts. I believe in equality and all, but I don’t think all people are equal. You have to treat everyone with respect, and acknowledge that there are always gonna be people who are way more successful than you. “Too soon we extinguish the flame of our hope." What he was saying is you can have the good life now. Too soon we extinguish that flame. You know when you're a little kid, you have all the hope in the world. But life tears you down for the most part. It's done it for every single one of us through the various traumas that life throws at us, and it turns us into haters. We become jealous and envious towards the people who have achieved greatness. That’s why I throw parties and have successful people over all the time. I’ve always wan

I don’t know about life that’s why God is making me experience it. I was living alone simple no one is hurting me. I was fine with my life. I was living my life or that is what i thought of. Until I left and went to Saudi. People hurt like never before. People used me abusively hurting my emotions. I thought of wanting to leave my life. Until I guess met him. I thought he loved me but not. He was never in love with me. I thought to myself I do love him so I prayed if he’d leave me, leave me a souvenir for me so that I can still live my life and not think about him anymore but he took me just like an orphan. Just to say he’s a responsible or that he has a responsibility to take because he made me pregnant or should I say I am pregnant. And now I have 3 children all girls with a bag of all of his words of wisdom or should I say insults and make my ego and pride lower than ever before. I am down. Until now he is still no in love with me as he said. Well I guess I said to myself I have to

You know, you hear people complain all the time that they are unhappy because they haven’t achieved their dreams. People always have these big goals and dreams, but most people ain’t ever gonna reach those goals because they aren’t willing to take the time necessary to succeed. You’ll hear about people who have “overnight successes” but lemme tell you something, those successes were years in the making. If you’re gonna make it anywhere in life, you gotta be worth a damn. I know you might not like to hear it, but if you’re not willing to put in the time, you ain’t gonna see the results. You might be able to think of a few exceptions, but let me tell ya, those people are lucky. People say,  "Oh, well, Tai, here's an exception. Here's somebody who's not worth a damn, and they succeeded." Now, they seem to have succeeded. But remember, whatever success you see, it'll probably fade away, because, at the end of the day, the people who succeed and who last

“I am content; that is a blessing greater than riches; and he to whom that is given need ask no more.” ― Henry Fielding Dear ELLEN, How do you define inner peace? Most of us think of inner peace in terms of stress - as in, the absence of stress.  But is it really an “empty” state, or is it actually very full, rich and beautiful?  I choose the latter! When you’re at peace, some wonderful things happen: your thinking becomes clear, you feel physically energised, you have a sense of vitality, you’re in a state of flow, and your outlook and attitude are positive.  So emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually, inner peace is a state rich with LIFE, where nothing is missing except disempowering and stressful thoughts. You can achieve inner peace in just minutes every day.  Here’s how: 1. Meditate! It’s no surprise, I put meditation at the top of the list. If the noise in your head is causing you grief, you must learn to shut down the self-crit

Hi ELLEN, One day, a little boy spent the afternoon building a blanket fort in his bedroom, but he had nobody to play with. His mother was busy tending to the baby, and his father wasn’t home from work yet. When his father came home, the little boy ran up to him, greeted him enthusiastically, and asked him to come sit in the blanket fort. The father was tired from a hard and stressful day at work, and said no in a rather grumpy way. “Son, I’ve been working hard to make money all day. Don’t bother me right now, okay? I’m too tired to play.” Very disappointed, the boy went back to his room and sat quietly in his fort. Suddenly, he had an idea. He ran back to his father who was dozing on the couch. He shook his father’s arm and asked, “Daddy, how much money do you make in one hour?” The father was startled out of his slumber and none too happy about it. “Didn’t I ask you not to bother me?” he snapped. But the boy persisted. “Daddy, I really need to know. How much do you

“Walk as if you are kissing the Earth with your feet.” ― Thich Nhat Hanh Dear ELLEN, “Next to “I love you,” and their name, “thank you” are the sweetest words a person can hear. What you may not know is that they are also some of the sweetest to say.  Gratitude makes you feel good. Robert Emmons from University of California Davis and Michael McCollough of Southern Methodist University conducted a study on the impact of gratitude on well-being.  Several hundred study participants were divided into three groups. One asked to keep a journal of anything that happened each day; the second was asked to write about unpleasant experiences and the third group was asked to make a gratitude list.  The people in the third group reported making better choices, felt more resilient, reported improvement in their relationships, made more progress toward their goals, felt more enthusiastic and energetic, and reported significantly less stress than the other two groups.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart” ― Helen Keller Dear ELLEN, Have you been taught to hide or dismiss your feelings?  I hope not - but if you do deny your emotions in any way, you’re doing yourself a disservice. You’re human and emotions are part of your life. You may be a busy professional who believes that showing emotion means the competition will smell weakness and go for the kill.  You may be a father who believes that he has to be the rock of the family and be stoic in front of the kids no matter what.  You may be a woman who was told not to be such a drama queen. Yes, there are times when it’s good to tone down the display of emotion, but you certainly have a right to feel them.  Not allowing yourself to feel emotion can backfire because if the underlying issue isn’t dealt with it will rear its head again when you least want it to. Think about why you have emotions i

Hey Tai here, Sometimes it's hard to find somebody to help. There's a lot of need out there in the world. The way I look at it, in the world with all the suffering, you've got to earn the right to drive a Rolls Royce by making sure you give back. I gave $500 to a homeless man and his dog once and he thanked me by saying  “there is a God.” Now some people would probably say he might use that money for drugs and alcohol, and there's some truth to that, but I don't know. At this point in my life I don't feel like it's my place to judge everything, figure everything out, and try to help. Some people use it the right way, some people abuse it, but for the people that do use it, at least people didn't hold back giving because of the people who do abuse it. You know what I mean? Plus with that guy, I kind of have a soft spot for dogs. He's got his dog, and hopefully he buys some dog food, vet bills. You know I feel like animals are a lot of times helples

Hey  Tai  here, I wanted to talk a little bit on self help. I like self help stuff, self development books, videos, seminars. One of the dangers is Pavlovian response which is one of the 25 cognitive biases. Our brains are hard-wired to give us dopamine when this occurs. And naturally, it wants those little dopamine rushes. For example, that little red ballon Facebook icon you get when somebody's commented on your picture or something are dopamine responses that make Mark Zuckerberg rich. They don't make you rich, they make him rich. And if you're not careful, those Pavlovian responses, when it comes to self help, will have you just being an insight junkie. Just like everyday you're looking for new insight, new insight but you're not implementing any. That's low level activity. It feels, it's kind of like, what Adam Carolla calls a moral satiation, when it comes to things like charity. So people just talk about how,  "Oh yeah, I'

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Why is this email important? Well if you care about your business it is! OK now that that's out of the way let me tell you why you need to keep reading this.  Imagine that you have the world’s greatest company. Now imagine that you want to share your service or product with the world and make a living off it. It makes sense, right? An awesome company is going to sell on its own, it’ll be a huge hit! Simple math (Great product = tons of sales) Now reality is settling in, those initial customers you had aren’t singing your praises. They're content but once they’ve purchased it they’re gone. What happened?  What’s missing here? It’s simple. Marketing.  You have a great service, but no one knows about it! And how would your potential consumers know? They can’t read your mind and find it. Unless you're showing people ads they’ll never know you exist. It’s a sad truth but a truth nonetheless. Marketing exists to sell services. Social Marketing Science exists to

How can you be way happier, less depressed, have less anxiety and fear?  Let's talk about this book,  "The Happiness Advantage" . It's pretty interesting. "The Happiness Advantage" is  an international best seller and talks about the seven principles of positive psychology that fuel success and performance at work.  What are the seven? The happiness advantage number one, the fulcrum and the lever number two, the tetris effect number three, falling up number four, the zorro cycle number five. Number six, the 20 second rule, and number seven, social investment.  It's a good book. Just finished doing my book of the day, and I thought I'd share it with you. I'll just give you a few little points, not going to go through the whole book. Find something to look forward to. So, I'm going to give you three tips that I thought were interesting in this book. If you've been in a funk, if life's been hard, if you've been feeling do