Skip to main content
First rule of life, cut everyone out of your life who isn't either:
A. Encouraging you
Or
B. Offering constructive criticism
But there's one catch to this, you have to be sure you're adding value back or else it's not fair to judge others and cut them out, right? 
You’ve got to practice what you preach but this rule is so powerful that nobody applies it. 
You're going to find a lot of people in your life called, "free riders", that's the economics term for it, and they want something but they give nothing. They want value from you but they don't offer any value first. 
Encouragement or constructive criticism are the two most powerful forms of value anybody can add to a person's social life, right?
Follow this rule. If somebody's annoying, it doesn't mean you should cut them off because they might be offering constructive criticism into your life. It might be painful but it might be helpful. At the end of the day, it's value for value. They call this reciprocal altruism. It’s the scientific term for it and you always want to be in reciprocal win/win type situations.
Ask yourself about the closest people to you. Are they offering one of those two on a continual basis? Also, what are you offering? You might need to offer it first. I often say before I want to cut somebody off, let me try to offer value and see if they reciprocate because maybe they're not offering constructive criticism or encouragement because I'm not doing it first. The chicken or the egg, right? What comes 


first? Them encouraging you or you encouraging them?
You can only control yourself, so you must take action on yourself and next thing you know about half the people you come across will reciprocate and half the people show you their true colors AKA they don't want to offer value. Sometimes you can cut them off immediately. If they're family members or bosses or somebody you're dating… hopefully you're not married to them, you can slowly phase them out. It doesn't 
always have to be abrupt but you can move toward that goal. That's the best social advice I've ever followed
for myself.
Tai Lopez




Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

I always wanted to shout my heart out. It's s been a while. I have so many issues having on my mind. My daughter is not listening to me but for a time she listens just a blink of time. I wanted to rest but my 2nd daughter needs me because she's only 8 months old. My husband also doesn't listen to any of what I say, he makes me feels like I'm stupid or that I talk nonsense. I need someone to talk to me, to listen to what I need to say. I'm also human I need love respect and trust and everything else more. I want to rest. I want to clear my mind. I want to be love. I want more of me. I want me. 
Post a Comment
Read more
Hey Tai here, Sometimes it's hard to find somebody to help. There's a lot of need out there in the world. The way I look at it, in the world with all the suffering, you've got to earn the right to drive a Rolls Royce by making sure you give back. I gave $500 to a homeless man and his dog once and he thanked me by saying  “there is a God.” Now some people would probably say he might use that money for drugs and alcohol, and there's some truth to that, but I don't know. At this point in my life I don't feel like it's my place to judge everything, figure everything out, and try to help. Some people use it the right way, some people abuse it, but for the people that do use it, at least people didn't hold back giving because of the people who do abuse it. You know what I mean? Plus with that guy, I kind of have a soft spot for dogs. He's got his dog, and hopefully he buys some dog food, vet bills. You know I feel like animals are a lot of times helples...
Post a Comment
Read more
My favorite holiday is on Christmas Day worin I was in SOUTHWALES, UK. It’s like food is all over the place, gifts are everywhere, so abundant. I want to experience that again in my life right now with my family. As of now I am in the Philippines. I went to Southwales UK on December of 2009 til February of 2010. That was the most abundant experience I have had in my life. And that i didn’t think of anything thing none. I was enjoying everything, the place, the food, the event, and of course at that time i was with my mom and my sisters and my sisters children.
Post a Comment
Read more